Having a Nanny for the 1st time - it’s hard to loose control
We have decided to take the risk ( can you really ?) and get a nanny because the wify is going CRAZY
With our 1st one I was a stay home dad and in our case that was the only solution since we came here
because her parents were dying ( thinking about it I never mentioned it ) and for her to be with them
that was the only way. with the sadness and the surreal situation we were at, there was also a lot
of joy from being able to take such a major part in my 1st one’s life.
With my 2nd, things became "NORMAL". I'm at work and she is home and we are playing the chauvinist
act of the husband out of the house and the wife is home and most (i have to admit) of the burden is falling o
on her. So we decided to take a Nanny. We almost saw 5 other nannies but every time something else came up.
She came today (after wify interviewed her and said that she is great - as much as one can see).
She is warm, and kind of the "MAMA" type. I was holding my little one when she came and as amazing as she is
she smiled at her and didn't cry when we "switched". I'm at work and wify is working at home ( the freedom
of being a self employed designer) - Should I put a camera ?
Should I let nature run it’s natural course and give 98% trust ?
Is it ok to use a Nanny ? we didn't use with our 1st one.
Even though I'm trying to not to listen - guilt is knocking at my gate.
פורסם בתאריך 11 בDecember 2006 ע"י
תחת נושאים: Family, Life
You know, we considered it and went with daycare instead, but I certainly understand the reasons behind it. I think see how it goes. The camera thing is a bit extreme, since your wife is home. But watch how your kids respond to her. If they like her and are excited to see her when she comes, they are being treated well. But tell your wife when she feels more comfortable leaving the house while the nanny is there, to enjoy some time to herself.
Nanny’s are fine. Various friends of ours have had them and whilst there have been good to indifferent results, no-one has ever reported an actual disaster. We don't use one ourselves but we do have a fabulous childminder who looks after him three days a week. Of course, the first time we had to prize his fingers off the door frame to get him home we felt a certain amount of jealousy…
Hmm. Jealousy, that’s the tricky bit.