New boss is running our house
Its not fair.
Something happened when the 2nd was born. Its not fair came to this world.
Its a little verbal monster, that shows up in crucial moment in our daily routine.
Its not fair to brush her teeth and its not fair not getting dessert because she is not hungry anymore
(for our food). Its not fair that I ask her to take her "motzez" (Binky) out when she is talking and
of course its not fair that she has to go to sleep. - abba I’m talking I’m talking now I have a tendency
to cut people off in a conversation anther the excuse that it’s a dialog not monolog
(tell that to the wify and you'll feel thunder in all its glory) - but I can’t do it with my 1st one.
It usually happens when she needs to do something that she doesn’t like and she wants to
give her piece and u know she is about to say its not fair, so u try and cut her but then comes the
guilt sentence - abba I’m not done talking/ abba I’m talking now And do I want to be known years later,
when she'll be in therapy ( of course she will) to be the one why she is afraid to talk ? (im not worried,
my place in the ffuture is promised, I know ill have my share in her future therapy)
- Abba, stop it (tafsik et ze) the same concept of its not fair but its being used when me and the wify
disagree and she takes one of the sides.
In time either ill go crazy (living with 3 female cretures) or ill be known as the dude
פורסם בתאריך 3 בNovember 2006 ע"י
תחת נושאים: Family
One thing we do, which you might try is tell her that she has one minute to say her piece and then you will talk and make a descision because you are the parent, not her. I also tell Maya, I heard you and I understand what you want and I understand that you are upset about it or see it is unfair, but sometimes we have to do things we don't like, because it is the right thing to do. And at 4 it is a hard lesson to learn, but it will serve her better in the future to learn it now.
We're in your situation but have have fortunately not had any problems so far with our baby girl and 2.5 year old son. We know it’s a sensitive subject so we pay extra attention to our son so he doesn't feel left our or has to do only stuff he doesn't want to. I’s a fine line between spoiling him and being fair. Most often he just wants our attention since we're carrying around the girl all day long.
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